Posts in the "Women%27S%20Voices" category

"My daughter’s third birthday was the following day, and I discharged myself from hospital to help her blow out her candles" - Jessica

Posted on November 28, 2017

Jessica

As part of our Women's Voices campaign, Jessica writes about her experience of domestic abuse, surviving emotional and physical abuse and the life changing support from Women's Aid.

I can’t believe I stayed with Jonathan for so long. Even more so than the physical violence, the mental element was the worst. Definitely. You get stripped apart by the mental torture. Having three kids by myself now is hard, but it’s easier than when I was with him. They are happy and safe, which is what they deserve. I have normal worries now, just the same as everyone else. I have a great life.

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"When speaking out your voice can sound alien, even to you." - Niamh Ní Dhomhnaill

Posted on November 27, 2017

Niamh

In the first part of the Women's Voices series for the 16 Days 2017 campaign, Niamh Ní Dhomhnaill, an activist for improved services and awareness around issues of domestic and sexual abuse, writes about how speaking out about experiences of sexual and domestic violence can be a scary but life altering experience.

“Why didn’t you tell me sooner?”

“I didn’t know how bad it got for you, why didn’t you say something?”

Abuse and violence are often described as ‘unspeakable acts’ but who deemed them to be unspeakbale in the first place? I don’t think it was the people who had such horror enacted on them.

Silence can be broken in a myriad of ways

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Women's Voices Series 16 Days 2017

Posted on November 27, 2017

Women's Voices

During the 16 Days Campaign 2017, Women's Aid will share a number of short extracts from our Women's Voices series featuring individual stories from survivors of domestic abuse in Ireland. Each woman tells her story anonymously, sharing her own unique personal experience of the abuse she suffered. By telling their stories, the survivors hope that those in similar situations reach out, ask for help and seek support.  We thank the women for sharing their experiences with us - it is a privilege to hear them.

If you, or anyone you know, is experiencing domestic violence please contact the Women's Aid 24hr National Freephone Helpline on 1800 341 900, 7 days a week. Listening. Believing. Supporting.

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Day 16: Our Women's Voices Series

Posted on December 10, 2016

Day 16

One of the most powerful ways to communicate the reality of domestic violence is through the words of a woman survivor of violence. Women’s stories of overcoming domestic abuse are extremely powerful. Personal testimonies can empower women to speak about the domestic violence that they have experienced in the past, empower women currently experiencing domestic violence to break their silence and seek support and advocate for better services, awareness and understanding of domestic violence.

Last year, Women’s Aid started our ground breaking ‘Testimonies’ Project to amplify women’s voices in order to build better awareness and understanding of the complexities of domestic violence. As part of this project, Women’s Aid launched a new ‘Women’s Voices’ video during the summer.

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"...I was two months pregnant and he beat me. A couple of days later, I lost the baby." - Nina

Posted on December 09, 2016

Nina Baby

"I was two months pregnant and he beat me. A couple of days later, I lost the baby and he said to me, 'You must not have taken care of the baby properly. That's why you miscarried.' What a thing to say to a woman.

As always, all the blame was on me, but it wasn't my fault, I tried to protect us. I lost a second child a couple of years later.

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"... He used to tell me that I was exaggerating because he wouldn't hit me everyday." - Kate

Posted on December 08, 2016

"I never thought it was bad enough to go seek help from Women's Aid. I thought, I'm not one of those women, there are other women that are much worse off than me. I was wrong. I was one of those women and realising it was a turning point. 

He used to choke me and shake me, but he never punched me, and to him this proved he wasn't abusive.

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"He always had control, he knocked me down and used me as a way to make himself feel like a big man." - Annmarie

Posted on December 07, 2016

 Annmarie Grinch

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"As soon as I was pregnant, everything changed" - Kate

Posted on December 06, 2016

Kate Dolls House

"My mother passed away when I was a young single parent. I met this guy who instantly put me up on a pedestal. I was grieving and raising a child on my own and here was this man offering me all that I wanted; a loving family, the happy ever after that we all look for. He really wanted a child and as soon as I was pregnant, everything changed.

When I had the baby, it got worse and I realised he wanted me pregnant so he had a bit more control over me.

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"You get to a point where you feel like you can take it" - Clare

Posted on December 05, 2016

 

Clare Hands in Hair

"One time he dragged me in to the apartment by my hair. It was one of the few times that I fought back. I kicked him, but that just shocked and angered him even more. "Kick me, will ye?!" he shouted and responded with kicking me in the back of the head. I managed to get away from him and ran in to the bathroom. He tried to come in after me. I told him that I was seriously hurt and that my head was bleeding. This worried him and he kept trying to get in to the bathroom. He insisted I show him the blood, he wanted to see proof. That was out of fear for himself, not out of sympathy for me. 

 

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"... People will always say to you 'just leave, just leave.' It's so easy to say but so difficult to do.' - Nina

Posted on December 04, 2016

Nina

"People will always say to you 'just leave, just leave.' It's so easy to say but so difficult to do. Looking back, the best way I can describe to you, why I stayed for as long as I did, is that it's like a drug. A drug that chips away at your confidence, pushes your friends and family away and makes you feel completely isolated and out of control, like you need him, but you don't!

That is what you have to realise, you are so much stronger than you think and your life shouldn't be like this, love shouldn't cause you physical pain. You will gain your confidence back and leave. It takes time, but you can do it.

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