Posts in the "2016" category

"...After the physical assault I googled domestic abuse. I felt sick. I read the warning signs and could relate to nearly all of them." - Debbie

Posted on December 03, 2016

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"I remember someone said to me 'He sure did assault the wrong woman.' I thought he assaulted the right woman as I am now not afraid to speak up through Women's Aid to help somebody else. 

I cannot believe I stayed so long in that environment, I had such a lucky escape. Yet in other ways, I still can't believe I got out, with no ties, what would have become of me if I didn't get out the way I did? I don't know where I went the two years I was with him. I completely lost my voice and my independent self. I got off a plane after working and travelling the other side of the world and walked straight into hell.

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Day 8: Abuse increases physical and mental health risks

Posted on December 02, 2016

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Women and children experiencing domestic violence should never been portrayed as passive victims. Women’s Aid continues to be inspired by the women who use our services. Women, who are trying to live their lives, raise their children, study, work, and look after themselves and others, but who are doing so while suffering the most horrific abuse.

Women like us, like our sisters, our mothers, our friends and our workmates, whose strength and resilience in the face of unimaginable abuse and fear ultimate should not be underestimated. Yet, the impact of the abuse on the women we meet cannot be minimised or downplayed.

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"...He once threatened me 'You might leave me, but you won't leave with that face,' and beat me pretty badly. This photo is from that night and now I'm the one burning the memory of it.” - Annmarie

Posted on December 02, 2016

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“It was my Christmas party and he told me I wasn't allowed go to it. I had to go, I organised it and had promised everyone I would be there. He warned me I would be punished if I disobeyed him but I didn't want to let anyone down. I waited until he left the house, and then I went. I had a horrible nervous feeling all night but I tried to enjoy myself. When I came home, he was standing in the kitchen with this smug smile on his face. I knew he had done something but couldn't imagine what. My son called me upstairs and said 'Dad's after burning all your things.'  

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"I took him telling me loads of lies. I took him ruining nearly every special occasion I looked forward to. I took him ruining my birthdays. I took his sulking and refusing to speak to me for days on holidays." - Lisa

Posted on December 01, 2016

Lisa

"I took him pushing me, and knocking me over. I took him shoving me. I took him kicking his boot through a bathroom door where I had locked myself in to get away from his rage. I took being grabbed by the throat once. I took being called every filthy undermining name under the sun. I took him telling me loads of lies. I took him ruining nearly every special occasion I looked forward to. I took him ruining my birthdays. I took his sulking and refusing to speak to me for days on holidays.

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Day 7: Children are abused

Posted on December 01, 2016

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Domestic violence continues to be a very common context in which children experience abuse, with the abuser of the mother being the abuser of the children. Research shows that the more severe the domestic violence is against the mother, the higher the risk of abuse against the children in the home.

In 2015, there were 5,966 disclosures of child abuse to the Women’s Aid National Freephone Helpline.

This figure includes 5,582 disclosures of emotional abuse14 and 281 disclosures where children were physically or sexually abused by the perpetrator of their mother’s abuse. It also includes 82 disclosures of where children were being abused during access visits and 21 disclosures of child abduction in the context of domestic violence.

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Permanent link | Categories: 16 Days16 Facts for 16 DaysDay 71st December 2016

Day 6: Domestic abuse takes many forms

Posted on November 30, 2016

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Domestic abuse is not a once off event, but rather a pattern which escalates over time, and includes multiple forms of abuse: emotional, physical, sexual and financial abuse.  

We often hear from women that what felt like positive attention and attentiveness at the beginning of a relationship, turned into negative, controlling behaviour as the relationship became more established and it was harder to leave.

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Permanent link | Categories: 16 Days16 Facts for 16 DaysDay 630th November 2016

Have you #HadItUpToHere? Asks Jo-Ann from ActionAid Ireland

Posted on November 29, 2016

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Across the world, women experience violence or the fear of violence in cities and urban spaces on a daily basis. Safe Cities for Women is an international ActionAid campaign aimed at raising awareness and challenging violence and harassment against women in cities, everywhere.

Violence and harassment in public spaces happens all over the world and affects women no matter what their background or social status.

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Permanent link | Categories: Guest Blog post16 Days29th November 2016

Day 5: Domestic violence is hidden everywhere

Posted on November 29, 2016

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The Women's Aid National Freephone Helpline (1800 341 900) responds to over 41 calls each day. This figure is shocking but we know that this is just the tip of the iceberg. National research conducted by the National Crime Council in 2005 on domestic abuse in Ireland found that only a small percentage of the women surveyed had accessed support from a Helpline or support service. The same research found that 1 in 7 women or approximately 213,000 have suffered severe domestic violence.

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Permanent link | Categories: Day 516 Facts for 16 Days26th November 2016

Change the Conversation during the 16 Days of Action - Postcard Series

Posted on November 28, 2016

No woman ever deserves abuse

During the 16 Days of Action 2016, Women's Aid challenges some commonly held myths to build a deeper understanding of domestic violence.

There are many myths and much misinformation surrounding the issue of domestic violence. This can cause confusion and make a difficult situation worse for women who are affected by domestic violence. If we do not challenge such myths then society will not be able to respond effectively and protect women and their children from abuse.

Myths also encourage a victim blaming response to domestic violence while reinforcing the beliefs of abusive men.

Our #ChangetheConversation campaign turns some of the most common myths about domestic violence on their head and tell the reality for women experiencing domestic violence.

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Permanent link | Categories: #Changetheconversation28th November 201616 Days

Day 4: 54% of women killed in Ireland are killed by a partner or ex-partner

Posted on November 28, 2016

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On Day 4 of the 16 Days of Action Campaign, Women's Aid highlight the links between femicide and domsetic violence.  Our Femicide Watch 1996 - 2016 shows that a woman in Ireland is more likely to be killed in her own home and by a current or former boyfriend, partner or husband.

The report reveals that since the beginning of 1996, 209 women have died violently in the Republic of Ireland. 16 children were killed alongside their mothers. 131 women (63%) were killed in their own homes.

Where the cases have been resolved (through the courts or in cases of murder-suicide) 89 women (54%) were murdered by a current or former male intimate partner. 

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Permanent link | Categories: 16 Days16 Facts for 16 DaysDay 429th November 2016

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