Day 9: 60% of abuse starts before the age of 25.

Posted on December 03, 2017 at 09:19 AM

Day 9 Dating Abuse

You don't have to be in a 'domestic' relationship to experience abuse.  Dating abuse affects young women in Ireland.  In a national survey on domestic violence in Ireland almost 60% of people who were severely abused said that the abuse started when they were under 25 years old.  ,

Women's Aid hears from young women when their relationship starts to feels unhealthy, often after something has happened that may have made women feel unsafe or uncomfortable. When it feels like he is just 'too into you'. We also hear from women who have been living with domestic violence for some time that the signs that their partners were possessive and controlling were there from the start. But to them and their family and friends, it appeared like they were just 'so into her'.

Our experience and national and international research show that young women are at risk from violence and abuse from their boyfriends. In dating relationships violence and abuse are already a feature but are often not recognised as such by the young woman herself, or her friends.

We also hear from young women about the increasing use of different forms of technology to control and monitor women, which you can read more about here.

The Women's Aid 2in2u campaign highlights the way that a controlling boyfriend's attention can often be overwhelming at the early stages of a relationship, and encapsulates how it feels to be a young woman experiencing controlling behaviour. The campaign addresses the myth that abuse only occurs in older and more established relationships, where women are married or living with, and/or have children with their abusive partner.

The 2in2u campaign raises awareness of unhealthy behaviours in a relationship in the hope that young women, if informed, might get help before the relationship becomes more established, and it has become harder to leave or get support.

That is why we have put together a Relationship Health Check Quiz, Danger signs and a guide to keeping safe online at

We hope that if a young woman is uncomfortable or worried about any aspect of her relationship with her boyfriend, and hears or sees one of our advertisements, she will contact the Women's Aid National Freephone Helpline (1800 341 900) or talk to someone she trusts.

The poster shown here is one of three awareness posters for the campaign. See all the posters and other awareness raising material here.

What is dating abuse?

Dating abuse can happen to any woman at any-time. The following examples of tactics used by perpetrators in dating relationships are not exhaustive, but may help young women to identify for themselves if they are experiencing abuse:

  • A partner controlling what she wears and who she sees
  • Isolating his girlfriend from friends
  • Bombarding her with texts, checking all of her text messages, email or social networking accounts to keep tabs on her
  • Physically attacking her including hitting, punching, spitting and throwing her against walls
  • Threating to kill her or himself
  • Raping her or forcing her to do sexual things against her will

For any young woman in a dating relationship who feels like she is 'walking on eggshells' and living in fear of her boyfriend’s moods and temper we would communicate, if it feels wrong please reach out and contact Women’s Aid Helpline 1800 341 900 for support. Dating abuse is wrong and no one deserves to be threatened, beaten or be in fear for their lives.

For more information and danger signs of an abusive relationship click here.

Further Infomation

If you or someone you know is experiencing dating abuse please contact our 24hr National Freephone Helpline on 1800 341 900, 7 days a week or visit

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