"I took him telling me loads of lies. I took him ruining nearly every special occasion I looked forward to. I took him ruining my birthdays. I took his sulking and refusing to speak to me for days on holidays." - Lisa

Posted on December 01, 2016 at 02:23 PM

Lisa

"I took him pushing me, and knocking me over. I took him shoving me. I took him kicking his boot through a bathroom door where I had locked myself in to get away from his rage. I took being grabbed by the throat once. I took being called every filthy undermining name under the sun. I took him telling me loads of lies. I took him ruining nearly every special occasion I looked forward to. I took him ruining my birthdays. I took his sulking and refusing to speak to me for days on holidays.

I took him ignoring me for weeks on end. I took him sleeping on the couch and leaving me lying in bed, wondering if he was coming to bed or continue to ignore me. I took him staying in his own selfish world, where he came first. I took him looking past me when I really wanted him to listen to me.

I took him screaming the house down, many a time, and refusing to stop, despite me crying and pleading with him to. I took him saying he liked the things that he knew upset me, in front of others. I took him flirting in front of me. I took him looking smugly disgusted, and being totally uncaring, when I cried when he hurt me.

I took him sneering at me when I felt hurt. I took him deliberately gushing all over people I had fallen out with knowing it would upset me. I took him never giving me attention or affection when we went out socially. I took his sudden and soul destroying total rejection of me, when I least expected it, and when I really needed his support.

I took him turning up late for meals that I had caringly prepared for him, without any explanation or apology. I took his explosive anger when I would just ask why he couldn't just call? I took him freaking out at me, and raging like a lunatic, many times, and especially whenever I tried to discuss his treatment of me. I took the fact that he never apologised for hurting me, or abandoning me...and his TOTAL DENIAL of all these things, his re-writing of all the facts, and his refusal to admit his behaviour and him showing that he didn't care whenever he really hurt me. I took it all..."

"Women's Voices" is a photo essay featuring individual stories from survivors of domestic abuse. Each woman tells her story anonymously, sharing her own personal experience of the abuse she suffered. By telling their stories, the survivors hope that those in similar situations reach out, ask for help, and seek support. Read more about this project here.

 

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