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"...He once threatened me 'You might leave me, but you won't leave with that face,' and beat me pretty badly. This photo is from that night and now I'm the one burning the memory of it.” - Annmarie

Posted on December 02, 2016

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“It was my Christmas party and he told me I wasn't allowed go to it. I had to go, I organised it and had promised everyone I would be there. He warned me I would be punished if I disobeyed him but I didn't want to let anyone down. I waited until he left the house, and then I went. I had a horrible nervous feeling all night but I tried to enjoy myself. When I came home, he was standing in the kitchen with this smug smile on his face. I knew he had done something but couldn't imagine what. My son called me upstairs and said 'Dad's after burning all your things.'  

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Change the Conversation during the 16 Days of Action - Postcard Series Leaving

Posted on December 01, 2016

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No one enjoys being beaten, threatened and humiliated in their own homes. But leaving an abusive relationship is fraught with difficulty. Reasons why a woman may not be ready to leave include feeling isolated, ashamed and afraid of an unknown future.  There is a growing understanding of the barriers women face when trying to end the abuse. It isn’t as simple as telling the woman to leave. Whilst the risk of staying may be very high, simply leaving the relationship does not guarantee that the violence will stop.

Many women are frightened of the abuser, and with good reason. It’s common for perpetrators to threaten to harm or even kill their partners or children if she leaves.

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"I took him telling me loads of lies. I took him ruining nearly every special occasion I looked forward to. I took him ruining my birthdays. I took his sulking and refusing to speak to me for days on holidays." - Lisa

Posted on December 01, 2016

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"I took him pushing me, and knocking me over. I took him shoving me. I took him kicking his boot through a bathroom door where I had locked myself in to get away from his rage. I took being grabbed by the throat once. I took being called every filthy undermining name under the sun. I took him telling me loads of lies. I took him ruining nearly every special occasion I looked forward to. I took him ruining my birthdays. I took his sulking and refusing to speak to me for days on holidays.

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Day 7: Children are abused

Posted on December 01, 2016

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Domestic violence continues to be a very common context in which children experience abuse, with the abuser of the mother being the abuser of the children. Research shows that the more severe the domestic violence is against the mother, the higher the risk of abuse against the children in the home.

In 2015, there were 5,966 disclosures of child abuse to the Women’s Aid National Freephone Helpline.

This figure includes 5,582 disclosures of emotional abuse14 and 281 disclosures where children were physically or sexually abused by the perpetrator of their mother’s abuse. It also includes 82 disclosures of where children were being abused during access visits and 21 disclosures of child abduction in the context of domestic violence.

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"At first I started running to change myself for him, but I ended up enjoying it for myself"- Denise

Posted on November 30, 2016

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"We met when we were 17 and ended up doing the same course in college. He was verbally abusive towards me, in person and in texts. One day, in class, I had to stand up and give a presentation and was using my phone as a timer.

As I was giving the presentation I kept receiving text after text from him telling me I was stupid, and what I was saying didn't make sense, that I wasn't smart enough to be doing the course and that everyone in the class thought the same.

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Day 6: Domestic abuse takes many forms

Posted on November 30, 2016

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Domestic abuse is not a once off event, but rather a pattern which escalates over time, and includes multiple forms of abuse: emotional, physical, sexual and financial abuse.  

We often hear from women that what felt like positive attention and attentiveness at the beginning of a relationship, turned into negative, controlling behaviour as the relationship became more established and it was harder to leave.

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"You see, butterflies are things of beauty and fly without being trapped." - Bernie

Posted on November 29, 2016

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Women's Voices: A Photo Essay featuring Survivors of Domestic Violence

Posted on November 29, 2016

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"Women's Voices" is a photo essay featuring individual stories from survivors of domestic abuse. Each woman tells her story anonymously, sharing her own personal experience of the abuse she suffered. By telling their stories, the survivors hope that those in similar situations reach out, ask for help, and seek support.

As part of the 16 Days of Action Campaign (25 November - 10 December 2016), Women's Aid will post a personal story from a survivor each day. These stories are stark and harrowing, and show the real human lives affected by abusive relationships.

You are invited to share these stories to spread awareness of domestic violence against women and children.  You can see the full series as they appear here.

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Have you #HadItUpToHere? Asks Jo-Ann from ActionAid Ireland

Posted on November 29, 2016

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Across the world, women experience violence or the fear of violence in cities and urban spaces on a daily basis. Safe Cities for Women is an international ActionAid campaign aimed at raising awareness and challenging violence and harassment against women in cities, everywhere.

Violence and harassment in public spaces happens all over the world and affects women no matter what their background or social status.

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Day 5: Domestic violence is hidden everywhere

Posted on November 29, 2016

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The Women's Aid National Freephone Helpline (1800 341 900) responds to over 41 calls each day. This figure is shocking but we know that this is just the tip of the iceberg. National research conducted by the National Crime Council in 2005 on domestic abuse in Ireland found that only a small percentage of the women surveyed had accessed support from a Helpline or support service. The same research found that 1 in 7 women or approximately 213,000 have suffered severe domestic violence.

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