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Day 12: The Women's Aid 24hr National Freephone Helpline answers 41 calls a day

Posted on December 06, 2016

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"I do not think I would have got through the past two years without the support from Women’s Aid and I know I it will get me through the difficult times still ahead.” - Louise

The Women's Aid 24hr National Freephone Helpline 1800 341 900 is a service for women experiencing emotional, physical, sexual and financial abuse by a current or former husband, partner or boyfriend. We are also available for family, friends and professionals concerned about women living with domestic violence.

Our Helpline staff and volunteers answer, on average, 41 calls per day.

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"As soon as I was pregnant, everything changed" - Kate

Posted on December 06, 2016

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"My mother passed away when I was a young single parent. I met this guy who instantly put me up on a pedestal. I was grieving and raising a child on my own and here was this man offering me all that I wanted; a loving family, the happy ever after that we all look for. He really wanted a child and as soon as I was pregnant, everything changed.

When I had the baby, it got worse and I realised he wanted me pregnant so he had a bit more control over me.

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Change the Conversation during the 16 Days of Action - Postcard Series Everyone's Business

Posted on December 05, 2016

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Domestic violence is a serious crime and should be treated as such. Domestic violence includes physical assault, cruelty, verbal abuse, rape, and sexual assault. It can lead to physical injury, hospitalisation and mental health issues. In some extreme cases it can result in homicide. Perpetrators of domestic violence against women can also abuse the children of the relationship.

No behaviour which so degrades and violates a human being can be dismissed as ‘just a domestic’. Everyone can be a part of supporting women and children affected by abuse.

We can challenge the behaviour and victim blaming culture that allows domestic violence to happen.

If you hear or witness abuse or are concerned about a loved one, organisations like Women’s Aid can help you too.  Visit our Help section here.

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"You get to a point where you feel like you can take it" - Clare

Posted on December 05, 2016

 

Clare Hands in Hair

"One time he dragged me in to the apartment by my hair. It was one of the few times that I fought back. I kicked him, but that just shocked and angered him even more. "Kick me, will ye?!" he shouted and responded with kicking me in the back of the head. I managed to get away from him and ran in to the bathroom. He tried to come in after me. I told him that I was seriously hurt and that my head was bleeding. This worried him and he kept trying to get in to the bathroom. He insisted I show him the blood, he wanted to see proof. That was out of fear for himself, not out of sympathy for me. 

 

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Day 11: Children see abuse

Posted on December 05, 2016

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It's day 11 of 16 Days and we further explore domestic violence and children.

The majority of children living in a home where domestic violence is present are affected by the abuse.

Children are victims of domestic violence both when directly targeted by the perpetrator of abuse and when witnessing the violence directed at their mother. Research has shown that there is a connection between domestic violence and child abuse and that witnessing the abuse is in itself a form of emotional abuse. (Listening to Children: Children's Stories of Domestic Violence, Hogan, F. and O'Reilly M, Office of the Minister For Children, 2007)

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"... People will always say to you 'just leave, just leave.' It's so easy to say but so difficult to do.' - Nina

Posted on December 04, 2016

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"People will always say to you 'just leave, just leave.' It's so easy to say but so difficult to do. Looking back, the best way I can describe to you, why I stayed for as long as I did, is that it's like a drug. A drug that chips away at your confidence, pushes your friends and family away and makes you feel completely isolated and out of control, like you need him, but you don't!

That is what you have to realise, you are so much stronger than you think and your life shouldn't be like this, love shouldn't cause you physical pain. You will gain your confidence back and leave. It takes time, but you can do it.

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Day 10: 60% of abuse starts before age 25

Posted on December 04, 2016

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In a national survey on domestic violence in Ireland, almost 60% of people who were severely abused said that the abuse started when they were under 25 years old.

Women's Aid hears from young women when their relationship starts to feels unhealthy, often after something has happened that may have made women feel unsafe or uncomfortable. When it feels like he is just 'too into you'. We also hear from women who have been living with domestic violence for some time that the signs that their partners were possessive and controlling were there from the start. But to them and their family and friends, it appeared like they were just 'so into her'.

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Day 9: Domestic Abuse During Pregnancy

Posted on December 03, 2016

No one ever deserves to be beaten, threatened, raped and insulted. However, nowhere is domestic violence more stark or disturbing than during pregnancy. Women's Aid is deeply concerned about the prevalence of abuse of women during pregnancy and the post natal period.

Pregnancy does not offer protection to domestic violence. In fact, international research has found that 30% of women who experience domestic violence are physically assaulted for the first time during pregnancy (Child Protection and Welfare Handbook, HSE, 2011).

The Rotunda Hospital conducted research which found that 1 in 8 women surveyed were being abused during their current pregnancy (O'Donnell et all, 2000).

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"...After the physical assault I googled domestic abuse. I felt sick. I read the warning signs and could relate to nearly all of them." - Debbie

Posted on December 03, 2016

Debbie

"I remember someone said to me 'He sure did assault the wrong woman.' I thought he assaulted the right woman as I am now not afraid to speak up through Women's Aid to help somebody else. 

I cannot believe I stayed so long in that environment, I had such a lucky escape. Yet in other ways, I still can't believe I got out, with no ties, what would have become of me if I didn't get out the way I did? I don't know where I went the two years I was with him. I completely lost my voice and my independent self. I got off a plane after working and travelling the other side of the world and walked straight into hell.

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Day 8: Abuse increases physical and mental health risks

Posted on December 02, 2016

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Women and children experiencing domestic violence should never been portrayed as passive victims. Women’s Aid continues to be inspired by the women who use our services. Women, who are trying to live their lives, raise their children, study, work, and look after themselves and others, but who are doing so while suffering the most horrific abuse.

Women like us, like our sisters, our mothers, our friends and our workmates, whose strength and resilience in the face of unimaginable abuse and fear ultimate should not be underestimated. Yet, the impact of the abuse on the women we meet cannot be minimised or downplayed.

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